In this section of the book, Dr. Johnson is discussing “primal panic” set off by attachment distress. “We don’t think; we feel, we act.” – is the outcome when the brain’s amygdala takes over if an attachment figure is all of a sudden unavailable or unresponsive. Continue reading
Attachment theory tells us that we are made to be connected to others. However, a lot of the initial research involved mothers and children. Does it apply to adults as well? In our latest podcast, Rebecca and I talk about this with Dr. Phil Shaver, considered by many to be “the father of adult attachment theory.”
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(Please note: The audio is transcribed “as is,” spoken grammar glitches and all.)
G: Today we are talking with relationship expert Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen and special guest, researcher Dr. Phil Shaver.
G: Hi Becca!
R: Hey there Greg, so nice to talk to you today.
G: In the next few podcasts we’ll be presenting our interview with Dr. Shaver about adult attachment and I’m finding that the concept is quite new to people – at least the adult part. People are often perplexed that it even applies to adults because so much of the original research is about the mother-child bond. Can you talk about those roots? Continue reading
To rebuild a wounded relationship, is it more important to carefully unravel problematic events or to explore the emotions of the situation?
To repair a wounded relationship, the first step is to prioritize the relationship. It’s the relationship that needs repair.
Often when we want to repair, we want our partner to heal us, to comply to what we think needs to happen to repair trust or to be convinced we really matter and are important to our partner.