One of the advantages of being new to the field of relationship psychology is that I am still relatively immune to the jargon and nuance of meaning in phrases that professionals seem to use nonchalantly; words that we regular folk may not fully understand. What is obvious and innocent psychobabble to a practiced therapist sometimes stands out as dangerous non-sense to me. I fully admit that my response is coming from a place of incomplete understanding, but I am convinced that things sometimes get lost in translation for us regular folk. I’ve seen it happen.
So, when a professional recently replied to me that “Nobody can make another person feel anything” my initial response was “horse feathers!” (OK, maybe not horse feathers, but referring to bovine after-product might get me in trouble with my co-editor.) This assertion flies in the face of common sense and seems to contradict a great deal of the hard research I am reading. Continue reading