Tag Archive - Attachment

002 – Does Attachment Theory Apply to Adults?

December 22, 2011 in Science with 1 Comment

Attachment theory tells us that we are made to be connected to others. However, a lot of the initial research involved mothers and children. Does it apply to adults as well? In our latest podcast, Rebecca and I talk about this with Dr. Phil Shaver, considered by many to be “the father of adult attachment theory.”

 

 

If the player does not show, you can click here to listen: 002 – Attachment and Adults featuring Dr. Phil Shaver

 

 

Dear Becca: Events or Emotions?

September 14, 2011 in Questions with 0 Comments

Dear Becca,

To rebuild a wounded relationship, is it more important to carefully unravel problematic events or to explore the emotions of the situation?

Sincerely,

Michael

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Dear Michael,

To repair a wounded relationship, the first step is to prioritize the relationship. It’s the relationship that needs repair.

Often when we want to repair, we want our partner to heal us, to comply to what we think needs to happen to repair trust or to be convinced we really matter and are important to our partner.
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