Today’s RR is another quote from chapter 1 of the Handbook of Attachment:
“Thus attachment, far from interfering with exploration, is viewed as fostering exploration.” ~ Dr. Jude Cassidy, pg. 8
This resonated with me because:
- I’ve experienced it. When I have felt the most connected to my wife and other special others, I have been more willing to try new things, learn new things, and take risks.
- this is in stark contrast to the notion that attachment is all about being chained to someone and that being connected to someone is an abdication of freedom.
- on a related note, it was validating. I love romantic gestures, but have been accused of offering too much and caving in to the whims of my “ball and chain” wife. What people don’t realise is that these “connection builders” have helped to build trust and love in my relationship; so much so that I have significant freedoms that other men don’t.
Does this quote resonate for you? Positively? Negatively? I’d love to hear your comments.