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		<title>005 &#8211; Introverted vs Avoidant &#8211; What is the difference?</title>
		<link>http://www.wefulness.com/2012/05/005-introverted-vs-avoidant-what-is-the-difference/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 May 2012 04:36:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Attachment Theory]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I think of avoidant individuals, for some reason what comes to mind is a certain &#8220;smoking man&#8221; magazine ad &#8211; the strong, silent, solo cowboy looking over the herd. I think of someone who likes to get away from everyone else to think. But in retrospect, is that characterization correct? In our latest podcast [...]]]></description>
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		<title>004 &#8211; &#8220;Attachment Figure&#8221; Defined</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 29 Apr 2012 22:41:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Love]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Attachment figures play an important role in Attachment Theory. In the original research, a child&#8217;s mother filled that role. However, if we are talking adult romantic relationships, clearly we are talking about someone or something else. What or who is an attachment figure? In our latest podcast, Rebecca and I discuss this question with Dr. Phil Shaver, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>003 &#8211; Can Attachment Styles Change?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:07:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Adult Attachment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Anxious]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Attachment Theory]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[avoidant]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Blake]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dr. Phil Shaver]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[insecure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Jorgensen]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[secure]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Attachment theory tells us that there are three main attachment styles: secure, anxious and avoidant. However, some people will insist that they have been more than one &#8220;style&#8221; in their lifetime. Is that possible? If yes, what is happening in that situation? Is there hope to move from an insecure attachment style to secure? In [...]]]></description>
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		<title>002 &#8211; Does Attachment Theory Apply to Adults?</title>
		<link>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/12/002-does-attachment-theory-apply-to-adults/</link>
		<comments>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/12/002-does-attachment-theory-apply-to-adults/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Dec 2011 22:54:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Science]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Attachment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Attachment Theory]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dr. Phil Shaver]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Father of Adult Attachment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Attachment theory tells us that we are made to be connected to others. However, a lot of the initial research involved mothers and children. Does it apply to adults as well? In our latest podcast, Rebecca and I talk about this with Dr. Phil Shaver, considered by many to be &#8220;the father of adult attachment theory.&#8221; [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Dear Becca: How can I stop the worry train?</title>
		<link>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/11/dear-becca-how-can-i-stop-the-worry-train/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Nov 2011 16:18:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Questions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[rumination]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[worry]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Dear Becca, Sometimes my mind just won’t shut off when things aren’t just right with Michael. I practice discussions with him in my head over and over and over again and, frankly, it tends to make matters worse because I can’t sleep, which makes me worry more, which keeps me up, which makes me… well, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Exercise #2 &#8211; Stopping &#8220;Rumination&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/11/rumination/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Nov 2011 16:13:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[relationship distress]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[rumination]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[worry]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Ruminating is repetitive thinking about the same thing, like trying to solve a nagging problem. We can get caught thinking, thinking, thinking&#8230; and not being able to get our mind off the problem or issue that we&#8217;re concerned about. We often think, or use our heads, when there&#8217;s pain or distress in our bodies that [...]]]></description>
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		<title>I Am a Border Collie &#8211; Attachment Theory Pt. 1</title>
		<link>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/10/attachment-theory-pt-1/</link>
		<comments>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/10/attachment-theory-pt-1/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Oct 2011 05:21:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Science]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Amir Levine]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Attached]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Attachment Theory]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rachel Heller]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[In my role as editor of RatedGRomance.com, I hear from a lot of women who ache to find a romantic heartmate. They are looking for the kind of guy who craves intimacy; a man who is super attentive – the kind of lover who seems to have a freaky hyper-sense of a woman’s emotional state; [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Love is like a &#8217;56 Oldsmobile</title>
		<link>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/09/love-is-like-a-56-oldsmobile/</link>
		<comments>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/09/love-is-like-a-56-oldsmobile/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Sep 2011 23:29:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[A few years back I announced to my wife that it might be time to sell our ’56 Oldsmobile. I told her that I was starting to see rust bubbles and that it might be good to let “Rocket” go. In response, both my wife and daughter started to tear up; their lips quivering. Long [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Dear Becca: Events or Emotions?</title>
		<link>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/09/dear-becca-events-or-emotions/</link>
		<comments>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/09/dear-becca-events-or-emotions/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2011 02:31:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Questions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Attachment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Dear Becca, To rebuild a wounded relationship, is it more important to carefully unravel problematic events or to explore the emotions of the situation? Sincerely, Michael &#8211; Dear Michael, To repair a wounded relationship, the first step is to prioritize the relationship. It’s the relationship that needs repair. Often when we want to repair, we [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Vulcan&#8217;s Way? Passion vs. Self-Regulation of Reactivity</title>
		<link>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/09/passion-vs-self-regulation-of-reactivity/</link>
		<comments>http://www.wefulness.com/2011/09/passion-vs-self-regulation-of-reactivity/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Sep 2011 00:31:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Questions]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Understanding is scaffolded in part by our accumulated cultural metaphors. For better or for worse, I must confess that many of my internalized metaphors came from watching Star Trek. And these days I’m thinking a lot about Vulcans. If you are not a Sci-Fi fan, the &#8220;Vulcans, as a matter of custom and policy, suppress [...]]]></description>
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