Sometimes my mind just won’t shut off when things aren’t just right with Michael. I practice discussions with him in my head over and over and over again and, frankly, it tends to make matters worse because I can’t sleep, which makes me worry more, which keeps me up, which makes me… well, you get the idea. What can I do to keep things from going round and round in my head?
We tend to ruminate or worry when there’s something going on that’s disturbing or needs to be solved.
A friend of mine once wrote a poem about this very thing:
Tumble dry conversation
Round and round in my head
Practiced telepathic tête-à-tête
You cannot hear
The clack of holdfasts and the other shoe
Spinning in the night
Fortunately you do not have to be stuck forever. Please see “Excerise #2 – Stopping Rumination.“