Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen, PhD 

Rebecca Jorgensen is @EFTdoc on twitter and has two popular blogs:  Living In Love and Lifetime of Love.

When asked what she does, Becca replies, “I help couples save or strengthen their marriages and train other clinicians how to do that same thing.” Translate that response into a professional vitae and it’s a long document that reflects a 25 year career of treating troubled relationships and becoming a sought out speaker, consultant and trainer.

Dr. J trains and consults psychologists, marriage and family therapists, and counselors around the world (see www.rebeccajorgensen.com) both in person and online. In addition to this blog and podcast, she is founder of the Attachment Advancement Institute and producer of the Transformational Connections Virtual Summit and Talk Time Monthly Webinar. She is a co-director of the Training and Research Institute for  Emotionally Focused Therapy (www.trieft.org), the San Diego Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy (www.emotionallyfocusedtherapy.us) and LifeSTAR (Sexual Treatment And Recovery) San Diego (www.sdlifestar.com).

Becca is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy by the International Centre for Excellence in EFT as a therapist, supervisor and trainer.


Gregory Blake, BSc

Gregory Blake

Gregory Blake is the editor of the twitter feed and blog, “Rated G Romance.”

“I started Rated G Romance in an effort to gather like minded romantics in an open forum. My goal was to share some of my experiences and learn from others. I’ve been married 28 years and at the time I was starting to run out of ideas on how to romance my wife in new and interesting ways! I had no idea at the time that so many others were interested in romantic gestures.”

What started as research into romantic gestures quickly became a deep seated desire to learn more about love and relationships on a scientific level. “I am a middle school teacher and I hold a double major, Bachelor of Science degree in Computer Science & Biology. I love learning. So when I started running across scholarly articles on the science of love, attachment, and relationships, I was drawn in. The fact that there are actual scientific studies that can help us learn to love our ‘irreplaceable others’ in profound and wonderful ways is mind blowing to me.”

“I hope that through the WEfulness.com site I can share some of what I’ve learned. But just as importantly, I am full of questions and I hope that my musings will initiate discussions that will help everyone live lives rich in love and connection.”

Gregory lives is the suburbs of Vancouver, BC, Canada with the most amazing woman in the world; at least he thinks so.

Trivia: Gregory Blake is both his name and a pen name. “Gregory Blake is what my mom used to call be when I was in trouble. I use it as a pen name to ensure some privacy for my family and to keep from weirding out my students by talking about all this ‘lovey-dovey stuff.'”

Messages and comments posted on WEfulness.com are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the thoughts or opinions of anyone else associated with the project.




I have been told I have a tendency to clingy and needy in my relationship with my partner. (I hate those labels, BTW). My therapist says I have been a pursuing partner in my relationship; an “anxious” in attachment theory jargon. We’ve been struggling, but I’ll die if we don’t end up finding a way to make it work.



I have been told I have a tendency to withdraw in my relationship with my partner. I’m what they call an “avoidant” in psychobabble. My relationship has been struggling, but I want to find a way to make it work.


Please note that all our “Voices” characters are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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