The danger in talking with interesting people is that sometimes they make you think. I recently came away from a discussion with a good friend thinking to myself sincerely about the nature of forgiveness. It turns out that forgiveness is one of those words I feel more than know. I have felt forgiven. I have felt the relief of truly forgiving. But to articulate what forgiveness means sincerely escapes me. When I asked myself to define what forgiveness meant, I couldn’t do it.
So when in doubt, ask the Twitterverse. 🙂 Here are some of the best responses so far.
@snowsflake In order to forgive we must realize that we’re mad at the act and not the person, it doesn’t really matter who did it.
@trnunes Forgiveness=valuing a relationship above one’s own ego.
@weddingchaplain Forgiveness is given and received. I feel grateful for the forgiveness I have received and generously give it.
@jasonwilks Forgiveness is no longer holding offense against another, however, forgiveness does not = trust. It is free, trust is earned.
@o0omunkieo0o I wrote a blog on this. http://munkiebabble.wordpress.com/2010/01/30/forgiven-not-forgotten/ – Forgiven, not forgotten.
@ReaFaceToFace Forgiveness: The ability to forget the ‘even though’ part that might come after ‘I love you’ – even though. Not that I’m a pro, but that sounded good 🙂
@PowderRoomTalk Forgiveness is setting anger free
@Kardboard Forgiveness is complete pardon and complete awareness of a transgression, hurt or wrong. (methinks)
depends on the a lot of factors…
@StripeeSocks Accepting other peoples faults/failure as a person/behaviours I guess.
@WritewhereUr Forgiveness is examining someone’s transgression & making a decision to heal the wound & move foward in a healthy way
@raveninnyc Letting go of your resentment.
Is forgiveness ever the wrong approach? When do we cross the line to codependency and enabling? Is forgiveness a concept independent of the perpetrator?
Like I say, I feel this word deep in my bones, but can’t express it. I’d love to hear your comments. What is forgiveness?